Zen of Responsible

A chance combination two Facebook posts and a late night email:
Scott McLendon commented on Cindy Sheehan’s status:
“”What is to give light must endure burning.”
“The experiences of camp life show that a man does have a choice of action. There were enough examples, often of a heroic nature, which proved that apathy could be overcome, irritability suppressed. Man can preserve a vestige of spiritual freedom, of independence of mind, even in such terrible conditions of psychic and physical stress. We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s way. The way in which a man accepts his fate and all the suffering it entails, the way in which he takes up his cross, gives him ample opportunity—even in the most difficult circumstances—to add a deeper meaning to life.”
“Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.”
“Just as a small fire is extinguished by the storm whereas a large fire is enhanced by it-likewise a weak faith is weakened by predicament and catastrophes whereas a strong faith is strengthened by them. ”
“For the meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day and from hour to hour. What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment. ”
“Our generation is realistic for we have come to know man as he really is.
“After all, man is that being who has invented the gas chambers of Auschwitz; however, he is also that being who has entered those gas chambers upright, with the Lord’s Prayer or Shema Yisrael on his lips. ”
“Only to the extent that someone is living out this self transcendence of human existence, is he truly human or does he become his true self. He becomes so, not by concerning himself with his self’s actualization, but by forgetting himself and giving himself, overlooking himself and focusing outward.”
” “So, let us be alert-alert in a twofold sense:
Since Auschwitz we know what man is capable of.
And since Hiroshima we know what is at stake.”
–Viktor Frankl

——————–Freedom for what ?

Bodhi Sarango sent a message to the members of Celebrating The New Man – Zorba the Buddha.

- OSHO, BEING YOUR SANNYASIN HAS GIVEN ME THE SENSE OF FREEDOM OF NOT BELONGING TO ANY PARTICULAR PLACE, COUNTRY OR EVEN NATIONALITY. IT’S REALLY GREAT. I’VE FELT ABLE TO MOVE ABOUT WITHOUT MUCH FEAR AND TO BE COMMITTED WITHOUT FEELING IMPRISONED. WHY THEN, AFTER NINE YEARS, DO I FEEL A BITTER SADNESS MIXED WITH THIS SENSE OF FREEDOM?

- Freedom has two sides and if you have only one side of it, a single side, you will feel freedom mixed with sadness. So you have to understand the whole psychology of freedom.

The first side is freedom from: from nationality, from a certain church, from a certain race, from a certain political ideology. This is the first part of freedom, the foundation of freedom. It is always from something. Once you have attained this freedom, you will feel very light and very good and very happy. And for the first time you will start rejoicing in your own individuality, because your individuality was covered with all those things that you have become free of.

But this is only one half and then there will come sadness, because the other half is missing. Freedom from is fulfilled, but freedom for what? Freedom in itself has no meaning, unless it is freedom for something, something creative — freedom to sculpt, freedom to dance, freedom to create music, poetry, painting. Unless your freedom turns into a creative realization, you will feel sad. Because you will see that you are free: your chains are broken, you no longer have any handcuffs, you no longer have any chains, you don’t have any prison, you are standing under the starry night, completely free, but where to go?

Then comes a sudden sadness. What path to choose? Up to now there was no question of going anywhere — you were imprisoned. Your whole consciousness was concentrated on how to get free, your only anxiety was how to get free. Now that you are free, a new kind of problem has to be encountered. What to do now that you are free?

Just freedom in itself does not mean anything, unless you choose a creative path. Either you go deeper into meditation for self-realization — that’s what I was talking about: unless you become like Premda, pregnant — or if you have a certain kind of talent that has not been allowed to develop because of your fetters — you could not compose music because your hands were in chains, you could not dance because your feet were in chains … If you have a talent to be a dancer, then be a dancer. Then your freedom is complete, then the circle is complete.

Freedom from and freedom for — this is not something new that you are facing. It is being faced by every person who struggles first for freedom and then suddenly finds, “Now that I am free, what am I going to do?” Up to now, he was so occupied, so engaged, so very busy. Even in his dreams he was thinking only of freedom. And he has never thought about what he is going to do when he will get freedom.

Prem Islamo, what has happened is beautiful. But something more is needed. You have to become a creator. You have to find some creativity that fulfills your freedom, otherwise the freedom is empty. You need either to create something or to discover something. Either bring your potential to actuality or go inwards to find yourself, but do something with your freedom.

Freedom is only an opportunity for you. It is not in itself the goal. It simply gives you the whole opportunity to do whatever you want to do. Now you are free and you are feeling sad, because you have not used this opportunity yet. Meditation will do, music will do, sculpture will do, dancing will do, love will do. But do something with your freedom. Just don’t sit with your freedom, otherwise you will become sad.

Freedom has to be a creative force in your life, not just a negative kind of freedom. The first part is negative: it is simply getting rid of the prison, it is getting rid of the chains. That you have done: now you are standing underneath the sky, completely lost.

Perhaps you have never realized that the imprisoned person has a certain reason for remaining imprisoned. That’s why millions of people in the world remain prisoners of religion, of caste, creed, nation, color. All kinds of prisons they go on tolerating — not without reason. Their reason is that when they are imprisoned they don’t have any responsibility, they don’t have to be creators, they don’t have to find some positivity in their freedom. It is enough for them to remain imprisoned, because then others will go on taking care.

Why are people Christians, why are people Hindus, why are people Mohammedans? Because Jesus will take care. You need not be worried. All that you have to be is just a slave of the Christian church. And the Christian church will take care of all your sins and of all that is needed. One feels absolutely unburdened with responsibility — no responsibility.

But remember one thing, fundamental to the whole question of freedom: responsibility and freedom are together. If you don’t want to have responsibility, you can’t have freedom either. They both come together or they both go together. If you leave responsibility, you have to accept slavery in some way or other.

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Two versions of the responsibility for freedom, how green…

Hi, Monte,
Thought you might appreciate this. I’ve had this reference in my library for years, I was going to send this text and reference to you last summer, but, time and tides wait for no spam.
–charles

From:
Sutra Spoken By The Sixth Patriarch On The High Seat Of The Treasure Of The Law
(Aka: The Platform Sutra)
———————

Thus, to the knowledge of no one, the dharma was transmitted to me at midnight, and consequently I became the inheritor of the teaching of the Sudden school as well as of the robe and the begging bowl.
“You are now the sixth patriarch,” said he «Hung-jen, the fifth patriarch –c.o.», “Take good care of yourself, and deliver as many sentient beings as possible. Spread and preserve the teaching, and don’t let it come to an end. Take note of my stanza:

Sentient beings who sow seeds of enlightenment
In the field of causation will reap the fruit of buddhahood.
Inanimate objects void of buddha-nature
Sow not and reap not.

He further said, “When the patriarch Bodhidharma first came to China, most Chinese had no confidence in him, and so this robe was handed down as a testimony from one patriarch to another. As to the dharma, this is transmitted from heart to heart, and the recipient must realize it by his own efforts. From time immemorial it has been the practice for one buddha to pass to his successor the quintessence of the dharma, and for one patriarch to transmit to another the esoteric teaching from heart to heart. As the robe may give cause for dispute, you are the last one to inherit it. Should you hand it down to your successor, your life would be in imminent danger. Now leave this place as quickly as you can, lest some one should do you harm.”

After saying good-bye, I left him and walked toward the south. In about two months’ time, I reached Ta-Yü Mountain. There I noticed that several hundred men were in pursuit of me with the intention of robbing me of my robe and begging bowl.
Among them there was a monk named Hui-ming, whose lay surname was Ch’en. He was a general of the fourth-rank in lay life. His manner was rough and his temper hot. Of all the pursuers, he was the most vigilant in search of me. When he was about to overtake me, I threw the robe and the begging bowl on a rock, saying, “This robe is nothing but a symbol. What is the use of taking it away by force?” [I then hid myself.]
When he got to the rock, he tried to pick them up, but found he could not. Then he shouted out, “Lay brother, lay brother [for the patriarch had not yet formally joined the Order], I come for the dharma, not for the robe.”
Whereupon I came out from my hiding place and squatted on the rock. He made obeisance and said, “Lay brother, preach to me please.”
“Since the object of your coming is the dharma,” said I, “refrain from thinking of anything and keep your mind blank. I will then teach you.” When he had done this for a considerable time. I said, “When you are thinking of neither good nor evil, what is at that particular moment, venerable sir, your real nature [literally, original face]?”
As soon as he heard this he at once became enlightened. But he further asked, “Apart from those esoteric sayings and esoteric ideas handed down by the patriarchs from generation to generation, are there any other esoteric sayings?”
“What I can tell you is not esoteric,” I replied. “If you turn your light inwardly, you will find what is esoteric within you.”
“In spite of my staying in Huang-mei,” said he, “I did not realize my self-nature. Now thanks to your guidance, I know it as a water drinker knows how hot or cold the water is. Lay brother, you are now my teacher.”
I replied ” if that is so, then you and I are fellow disciples of the fifth patriarch. Take good care of yourself.”

pp73-76,
From: _The Diamond Sutra & The Sutra Of Hui-Neng_, tr. A. F. Price & Wong Mou-lam, 1990, Shambhala Press. Excerpt from The Platform Sutra of Hui-Neng.

i hear the 7th Master had known for some time that the uninspiring acolyte coveted his robebut thought he was concealing it

Out of the desperation born of lack of talent the acolyte began to plot,

One night he made up his mind

On the way, in the rain, knowing they are alone they meet

Looking in the eye he disrobes dropping the robe in the puddle, he walks away

The 8th kneels and weeps, the office is passed

I may have the enumeration wrong, these things all run together in my mind…

want to know why i like the one hand clapping koan?

Human Responsibility, Zen, mental liberty, you, myself, Allness Is Being, Life, death

and then bring it back ’round again

25 January 2010

meaning of life? all ways lead to emergence of Allness! – Jun 8, 2006

i believe that our evolution, and survival, depend on finding the common ground, and a reconciliation,
of cultural norms and systems of understanding.
from prehistoric roots of language, ancient, and historic culture, and post-modern science,
must emerge a common understanding.
we are beginning to understand the brain’s complexity, how mind emerges from that, our history,
our evolution, and our universe on many new levels.
this century will bring ways to sift and winnow our understandings beyond current imagination
and ecological problems, created by social problems beyond our understanding.

We have the information to solve our problems, and the imagination to enact solutions,
but we lack an agreement on what the problems are, and what solutions are desirable.

we must forge a consensus on the meaning of life, as quickly as we learn the details of life.
we have the tools to understand things that have escaped us due to their complexity,
things like our minds, and the chemistry of collected living bodies.

i expect us to find wisdom in old ways that have been seeming lost,
and knowledge of what it is to be human, and how.
this must crystallize into a more rapidly evolving, more effective, more widely shared
consensus on how to be human, and how to be earthlings.
a more universal, more adaptable, system for encoding our information into understanding, and actions
will grow alongside the technologies that will provide a much more complete encoding of our world
into information.

to get on down our path, we must know, and be, more godly, more human, and more earthly.
more deeply material, less shallowly materialistic
science, religion, and magic will each find the value of the other
they will be reconciled, indeed, we must become more human, we must know ourselves and our past;
we must return to the root, to bring water and nutrient to the branches
we will then each be our own branch of learning, creating the understanding to foster the growth of all.

my evolving spirit-view’s basis is Love,
understanding, propagating, expanding, explaining, Love.
it is the greatest mystery,
understanding of which brings greatest Being,
and makes the greatest beings
(i used to think it was Truth, when i was younger and dumber)

we have studied hate far past it’s usefulness, surely we can agree on that?

in sooth i revere, above all else, Earth, and Love.
Gravity is the Allness’s Love.
Earth is our place to beautify the Allness,
for us all to co-evolve allness in.
Truth and Grace define Beauty.
Beauty, Love, Truth, Earth and the Allness, are plenty of Reason for every being Being
We all share one soul, it is why we are here,
to be here
to being the All into being, to create, expand, evolve Her

soul, psychic energy, magical power, inspiration, meaning, is somehow conserved
as is mass and energy, to which conservation this is somehow enjoined
if only by our lack of knowing why.
the best theoretical physicists now speak of conservation of information,
an emergent property of data, which itself is a property emerging from positions of mass/energy,
as it emerges from spacetime.
all properties of existance seem to arise as an emergent property of spacetime’s very existing.
each new level of complexity emerging into ever more levels of complexity

are meaning, thinking, and Soul that much different?
i believe all past lives are part of all present ones.

thought, divination, and meaning itself are some of the many manifestations of this conservation
and these two are intimately linked, by the flowing of their parts between them,
the melding of one into the other.
it is not the dominance of one part or another,
but the dance of moving energies or vibrations back and forth between the parts,
that make for the purpose, the pleasure, the very existence, of individuals, and of the whole.
This is the spiritual reason why sexual union is, to me, one of the most magical of acts,
universally, and, in particular, to me.

our different understandings of the universe somehow work upon similar principles,
conserving truth and meaning, whether encoded in the stars, or our DNA,
to be read from the molecular structures, or from the cast of die,
if any one, or some, can just divine the form, the code, the key to meaning

and these concepts are some of the traditional basis of magic, and some of science
both of which can be religions, personal paths of spirit,
or illusions whisked away in the winds of time.

Some aspects of reason are provable, some unproven, some stubbornly unprovable; forever?
why we are here?
to be here
?
why do we love?
to love
?
why not?

these two are most intimately related
as the sun, the fire, the food, the luck in the hunt, the thought, the progeny, the word,
the power, lovers entwined, and lines of descent entangled.

science can only prove so much, the spiritual proof is that which is not to be replicated,
but can only be experienced by one; leading not to theories, but to beliefs.

since i always look for outside confirmation, deeply influenced by my first religion, science,
lovemaking becomes where i am most likely to find what appears to be a confirmation of
another’s reality and understanding, and my emergent ‘beliefs’.

two meaning systems, two views, two minds
in contrast, conflict, and in concert,
exchanging energies, loves, and world views, on the most intimate of levels.

We can never really know the mind, or the reality, of any other.
but when you are feeling you feel what another feels
you short circuit the mental systems that deny certainty.
we all feel the same feelings in very much the same way;
all humans use the same chemistry, and similar structures, to experience feelings.
indeed, we share much of this experience and equipment with all mammals,
and much of that is shared with reptiles, less fish, even less other animals.
still, hunger, smell, sex, decision making, all animals share these modes of being,
and experience them through very similar mechanisms.
One may surmise that the experiencing itself must also be very similar.

when one looks in a dog’s eye, one feels that the dog has feelings,
yet one never really absolutely knows the mind of their own twin

opening one’s mind to experiencing the magical flow of energy embodied in lovemaking
brings one as close to certitude as possible in the belief that one shares thoughts with another.
properly matched and understood, lovers may also experience the flow of energies
between entities, the dance of being at the elemental level.

however they conceive to understand this, there is to be found a proof of the underlying reality.
we are all connected, we are all one, we are bound to life, and empowered therein,
by Love, Meaning, Truth, Grace, and understandings

the smallest consensus is two, the most basic of consensus realities.

besides sheer coincidence itself (which is all magic, science, soul, or spirit really are),
as i touch it, in gaming, with dice (my first big hint), and synergy of meaning,
the other places i find meaning, like using the I-Ching, and sexual love,
are intimately entwined with my mind and my perception, indistinguishable from faith and illusion.

but some larger patterns, like astrology (for me), show the connectedness of meanings.
minds evolved to discern patterns, sometimes a coincidence is flagged instead.
hence the tendency of the less rigorous reasoning to find meaning everywhere.
while personal meanings may well be found everywhere, they are not shared with other entities.
discrimination is necessary to find meaning that may be shared, so lacking discrimination
is in contrast with healthy human skepticism, for we are social animals, unable to survive alone,
requiring some degree of consensus in our understandings.
however, some measure of belief, a failure of logic, but maybe not reason, is necessary to us all,
especially in the definition of purpose, direction, desire, joy, and fear.

some complex systems seem definitely to reside outside us
sustained by odd reasoning beyond our grasp as individuals
but with meanings and patterns to be derived from complex systems of meaning
painstakingly built by our fore bearers, and continuously added to
things like astrology, numerology, bibliomancy, tarot, runes, religions and other systems of magic.

many have been struck with the similarity much of modern science bears to these previous attempts.
which many also believe have been replaced by the sciences.

quantum dynamics, like astrology, is different than much of the rest, at least for me…
these seem to be confirmed by the passage of my time
to me these things, like other humans, seem more likely to be ‘real’
to be out there, proving themselves at a distance, not affected by how we see, or what we think.

i’m sure that’s how advocates of my most hated of such systems,
that i believe exist only in their own darkly twisted minds, see their explanation systems also.

i believe systems are less dark, and less hate-able,
when the view is flex-able, and amendable by further understandings.
i don’t feel fixed realities are ‘truth’,
they do not reflect the impetus towards evolving that i see in the Allness.
nor it’s need for Love, deep reverance, respect and Grace.
so, i’ve come to believe that truth actually is neither objective nor subjective,
with one soul, conserved by All, truth is found in a consensus reality,
always expandable by new kinds of being and meanings.

i feel this understanding emerges from our experiences,
it is incomplete, and tentative, but, like science, astrology, and divination,
it makes things more easily understood, or at least comprehended, and explained.

the Soul, Allnessing, Beauty, Truth, even earth, gravity, and mind,
each individual part, the whole, and life itself are all emergent properties of being –
things that stem from the fact of existence, whatever it’s ‘real’ form.

all these systems of finding deeper truths seem alien when first encountered,
but when time’s passing seems to confirm them, they seem to become more concrete,
until one can no longer imagine otherwise.

Quantum dynamics’ mathematics are some of the most beautifully twisted pieces of logic
that will ever be.
no less, or more, so than many others that seem to describe the nature of things well,
by allowing us to manipulate her on a deeper, higher, and or bigger, level than before;
to live more well, to evolve, to understand and find meaning.
as were the birthing of spiritual and magical logics before.

the best reasoning we have ever posited all depends on
“because it looks that way to us” which seems more powerful than “it looks that way to me”
but each system is composed of many small changes, each originally only state-able by one

the wisest wise men know, not only that they do not know it all,
but what it is we can never know, and what we may someday understand.

as we enter a century where the most important frontier will be understanding complexity,
especially how the mind emerges from the brain’s interaction with life,
we will find out more about what can and cannot be known, what meaning can and cannot be,
by learning more about what knowing is, and how we derive meaning.
presumably, the more we learn about learning, the better we will get at it.

but the big question (why?) will never change.
only the how will evolve, but now how is poised to at least show us why we ask why, and how we find answers and meanings.

Lao tzu
the wise Tao doesn’t know

meets
god grant me what i may change, forbearance of what i can’t, and wisdom to know the difference

meets
science, life, art, and massless media

emerging
into a better, expanding, more evolved consensus reality, produced by better understanding,
producing better understandings, accelerating earth’s evolving.

even the disintegration of professional capital ownership,
and other exploitation by misappropriation of our common inheritance,
under the crush of it’s own effects, can only free our minds to see
(unless we allow humanity to disintegrate with it), that everything has plenty reason to be.

all paths lead to the emergence of Allness

pleasure in growing is what gives life meaning
humans are the last ones who should ask what is the meaning of life,
for us it is too find meaning in life, asking why is questioning the meaning of meaning.
meaning emerges from existence, like existence, it is.

one may question the nature of existence, but not it’s existence
existence is, is-ing is what it does! i.e. is is! beings are, being is.
It sounds like nonsense, because it is the answer to a nonsense question, sense is sensible; it just is.

likewise, one may question one’s understanding of meaning
but whether life has meaning? meaning is defined by living!

emergence, evolution, mind, and meaning, are,
like existence, simply, miraculously, being!
each, like us each, an integral, inseparable part of the whole
the Allness knows the meaning, the purpose, the principles,
of each individual, as a part of giving meaning to the whole
it is the meaning, and it’s knowledge will hold all.

Allness knows all, but it really knows naught, it does all, it is all, it is more fundamental than knowledge.

we cannot be all the Allness, so we need neither understand, or be, more than we can.
nor may we,
but we can know that to question, to answer, to give ourselves the illusion of understanding meaning
is an important part of what is our reason to be.

Love, Grace, Truth, these are simply things that make life be, and for which it is worth being a life.
meaning derives from the universal quest, the evolution of meanings

existence exists to be, it’s not so complicated. life lives to live, evolution emerges to evolve.

ladies, and you poor young men,
i found this blurb that sums up the entire state of mind of men for the first decade or so
please, feel sorry for all the assholes, most of them are just stuck here:
oops…, i’m kinda, oops.. there it goes again! damn, wait, .. love? … no, anger?.. beep? beep; :surprise?!: overload… overdrive,,!,?? oh no! here i post again!
“If I cum now, will it be too soon” ubersite.com/m/17812
or why guys are quiet in bed (482481 hits)
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Submitted by Jon Elkins [Authenticated] (View user info) at 2003-11-04 23:17:40

I was once having a conversation with Jesus and our girlfriends and Razor’s house, and an interesting subject came up. (And yes, I purposely included the name of an uberuser guru in a pale attempt to gain popularity) Anyway, someone asked, “Why are guys so quiet in bed.” And while this is by no means true for all guys, here is my answer.

Guys are quiet in bed because we are too busy thinking. You heard me right. Thinking. Deep thoughts. You see, it seems to generally the guy’s job, (at least in my experience) to make the girl feel as good as possible and have sweet, sweet orgasms. The girl, on the other hand, is generally content to just lay back and see what I’ve got to offer. Again, I can’t speak for anyone else, this is just in my personal experience.

Not only am I thinking during sex, I am multi-tasking. My neuro-net processor of a brain is pounding algorithms as fast as my penis is pounding pussy.

Just what is going through my head during sex? Like the moon, this is a frontier so far journeyed only by man. But here is a small window of what goes on in my head during sex:
“Alright, time for some action”
“I hope I don’t fuck up this time”
“Is that the right hole?”
“Oh wait, there it is”
“All right, lets start out slow”

It isn’t long before my thoughts turn into a quiet panic.

BRAIN: “Damn, she just moved.”
BRAIN: “Did I do something right, or did I hurt her”

BRAIN: “She’s making noises!”
BRAIN: “Pain noises or pleasure noises?”
BRAIN: “Let try stepping up the pace a little”

BRAIN: “More noises, I pretty sure that’s pleasure now”
BRAIN: “Oh yeah, she’s starting to flush, I like that”
BRAIN: “Lets try changing the angle a bit”
………………………..
BRAIN: “Nope, didn’t like that”

BRAIN: “Damn, what was I doing before?”
BRAIN: “Fuck it, lets try a different position”
WOMAN: “OUCH!”
BRAIN: “Yeah….that one was definitely pain>
WOMAN: “What are you doing?”
BRAIN: “Mayday! Mayday!”
BRAIN: “Decrease Velocity!”
BRAIN: “Open flaps”
BRAIN: “Landing gear engaged”
BRAIN: “Disengage primary thrusters”
BRAIN: “Systems check”
ME: “You allright?”
WOMAN: “Uh….Yeah”
BRAIN: “No system damage”
ME: “Allright, lets try this again”

five minutes later….computer pretty much takes over
BRAIN: “Allright, back on track”

BRAIN: “Target in sight, hold position”

BRAIN: “C’mon…….C’mon”

BRAIN: “Hold it……Hold it…..”
COMPUTER: WARNING! WARNING!
COMPUTER: ERR-ERR-ERR
BRAIN: “Oh shit”
COMPUTER: SYSTEM OVERLOAD IMMINENT
BRAIN: “Oh shit, not yet!”

BRAIN: “Just a little longer”
COMPUTER: DANGER HULL INTEGRITY
COMPUTER: SYSTEM OVERLOAD COMMENCING
BRAIN: “FUCK! I’m not going to make it”
BRAIN: “Pull out and prepare for manual override”
COMPUTER: SYSTEM OVERLOAD __________
BRAIN: “Pull out, pull out”
COMPUTER: AUTO PILOT ENGAGED
BRAIN: “NO! UNENGAGE! UNENGAGE!”
COMPUTER: TARGET LOCKED….TARGET LOCKED
BRAIN: “If I cum now, will it be too soon?”
BRAIN: “If I cum now, will it be too soon?”
BRAIN: “If I cum now, will it be too soon?”
COMPUTER:
COMPUTER:
BRAIN: “Must….hold….on”
COMPUTER:
BRAIN: “can’t…..hold it”
COMPUTER:
BRAIN: “Its out of my control, its in God’s hands now”
COMPUTER: “PRIMARY VALVE: EJACULATING”

COMPUTER: “AUTOMATIC SYSTEM SHUT DOWN: COMMENCING”

WOMAN: “Honey, are you alright?”
ME: Yeah…..my head hurts….”
WOMAN: “Sorry”
ME: No, the other head”
WOMAN: “What?”
ME: Nothing”
ME: Did you cum”
WOMAN: “What, you didn’t notice”
ME: Actually, I was kinda too busy to notice”
WOMAN: “You’re so weird”
ME: You should try being the pilot next time”
WOMAN: “Get off me, I need to pee”

Do you ever find that pre-orgasm expression on a guys face funny?
Ever wonder what he’s feeling”
Its not pain
Its not pleasure
It is deep, hard, seething thought.”
article in origional context here

so, we see that much of male pattern insanity is simply men driving
it’s not always men driving, but maleness is all about attempting control,
ultimately, this process is mirrored in just about anything a man does
once he has taken an interest
from the first date, to the home, to the fight that could end it,
his eagerness, impatience, agressivness, desire, and control are tested
and the script of this knowledge is hard to shake
if you don’t know it, or try to ignore it,
women will teach you, and you will try to learn
so it is impossible to ignore, without becoming hopeless
wise, lucky, old men, they get it, or else they arrange it so they don’t care,
but it’s simple
we are tested, even guppies want both sides of the coin
every stroke contains the question, can you get carried away?/can you control it?

women don’t want to torture us
but evolution puts them in a place where they must need mutually exclusive traits
primal woman need primal man to lose control
only for her
needs control over overwhelming urge
at her command
and brains, and culture, and war have entrenched these needs
but when it’s just a game, or you feel like you’re winning, or all the needs are met
it is a fun ride,
esp. if you hit the trifecta and get all three, for a long happy life of love together
but don’t expect that any of that should happen to you

if you expect it, you won’t get,
if you don’t hope for it, you won’t get it
if you don’t work for it, you won’t get it
work to hard for it, you won’t get it

men want the same things, in much the same way
but if we can’t find it ourselves, we need to be culled
the male is simply more expendable, always,
that’s what maleness is

this is why straight men mostly secretly wish they were gay
and it is the reason that women feel the same
but it is the engine that has driven the rising complexity,
and powers, of human evolution
to the extreme of evolving the female orgasm

this additional feedback mechanism
creates a whole new level of complexity
along the lines of the same old themes

the question at this point is what do we do with all that
our tech begins to evolve itself
we must wind down the intensity of competition,
else find another venue for it than life

so:

men, swing the pendulum back from external control to internal control,
whichever way you dare to swing the pendulum, don’t swing it too far!

womyn, how about you try driving the beast more often?
whether or not you drive, accept it when you arrive where the driver thought you were going

both sexes must learn to better accept/expect failure more often
much more effective that trying to convince each other of our differing definitions of failure
more fun to share roles, swap sides
makes more whole people

Unbroken hearts for unimaginative pussies… had to go here

as spontaneous counterpoise to my previous post,
none could do better than one of my closest, Anna:
Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Unbroken hearts for unimaginative pussies…

Who do you know whose heart is not broken in some way?
Do you want to know someone with a whole heart?
We are our pain, every one of us.

Our scars and battle wounds are what make us more real…
more recognizable to each other.
When you join two pieces of clay together you have to score each side,
rough it up so that when you press them together they have something to hold onto,
places where they can fold together and can be sealed to make a strong join.

I believe that once broken, there is no going back to a whole heart.
The people and events that cause the breaking never leave us… not really.
I do not think that this is as sad or as melancholy as it may sound.
I prefer the wounded, deep, tried, healed over…
give me substance every time. I despise an unbroken heart.
It implies lack of depth, lack of life.. a grotesque apathy.
I have no end in sight for this monologue,
merely a few (2 or 3 hundred) thoughts on the matter…
It is after all, an unfinished topic with me.

 

Misogyny Corner: A response (780 hits) @ http://www.ubersite.com/m/81195

maybe i should have left it at just a link, but i really want to share this one
to be found @:

http://www.ubersite.com/m/81195

Misogyny Corner: A response (780 hits)
Submitted by badassmofo

I don’t really agree with the ‘women are crazy’ mentality.
Personally I think the whole issue is a problem with communication.
You see I’ve spent 10 years now,
living with my wife and 5 of them married to her and we have,
from what I can tell, a very good relationship.

It didn’t come easy; it didn’t come without work and sacrifice on both of our behalves.
No in fact it came from the complete opposite end of the spectrum,
IT WAS HARD FUCKING WORK.

We spent years listening to what the other person was saying but not hearing it.
Fact is we were speaking two different languages.
She spoke Woman and I spoke Constant Hard On,
it was like someone speaking French to a Klingon, it just didn’t work.

In fact this lack of communication led to us breaking up somewhere
around the end of our second year together.

Eventually we got back together and having bared our souls,
you see when you are about to lose something that you’ve loved more than anything else in your life
you become disgustingly honest.

So we talked and we listened and began to form our own language.
Or maybe a better analogy is that we created an interpretation machine of sorts.

You see when she said “Man the lawn needs mowing”
I no longer heard
“You fucking lazy man, why don’t you get off your ass and mow the lawn,”
I just heard an observation.
Unless of course she said
“You fucking lazy man, why don’t you get off your ass and mow the lawn,”
because I never had a problem understanding that.

And when I said stuff like
“I’m going out to have some drinks with the boys after work tonight,”
she no longer heard
“I’m going to get stinking pissed and see what type of venereal disease I can get.”

You see its all about communication,
and to learn to communicate takes time,
it’s different with everyone because we all speak different languages.

If you’ve got it in your mind that there will be fireworks when your eyes meet,
that love at first site is the norm or that she’ll turn soft with your every advance
you are mistaken and will likely end up alone.

You see love at first sight, more times than not,
ends up being a load of bullshit in fairly short order.
Mainly because it is a farce,
you can’t love someone when you first meet them,
its impossible, stop watching movies.

You can’t truly love someone until you’ve smelled their shit
and you’re ok with it.
Love grows its not spontaneously created.
You can’t love someone or be loved by them until they’ve seen you at< your lowest,
or until you’re holding her hair while she pukes in the toilet.

Now the question comes ‘this seems like a lot of effort,
how will I know who is the right one?’
I don’t know what to tell you there, some folks luck out as I have
and it works out with the first one that they actually bare themselves to
and try to work it out.
But most folks,
most of them have to try repeatedly before they find the right one….
but it’s worth it.

Women aren’t any crazier than men are;
we’re equally crazy in our own way.
It’s a matter of finding the one whose bad habits,
bitching, crying, farting that you can stand.

All that said one of the most important things is that you are happy with yourself,
you’re likely to not be able to be happy with someone else.
You see if you are unhappy with you then again,
you are having a communication problem but it’s with yourself.

When you find a woman that you deem crazy,
keep in mind that she is no crazier than any other woman, or any other
man for that matter.
It’s that her craziness is not compatible with your craziness.

 

warmth, closeness, breathing, space, shadows, light, warmth

i was already pensive, as my closest had suffered a maajor disaster

SassyPants, my new (MySpace) freind blogged this today,
and it resonated with my day emotionally

“Smothering…

This afternoon a friend of mine told me she wanted to be smoothered. She wasn’t talking about some scary sexual fetish. She wanted to be covered in a love so overwhelming that you can scarcely breathe, nor do you want to. I knew her meaning, having had that very desire myself. To inhale and exhale with another person, feeling them all around you, on all sides and you are blissed out as a result.And then later, another woman told me that she’s being feeling smothered by a friendship she’s been willingly participating in. She has been encouraging the attention and affection of someone who is quite taken with her and has decided it’s too much to take. Smothered. She said the word with fear in her voice. She’s very independent, she told me. She can’t change that about herself, nor does she care to. Her friend’s behavior is alien to her and she can’t even fathom how her own behavior has contributed to her situation.As for me, I long for someone to be sweet to me. I look forward to the time when my voice on the other end of the phone consistently makes another person happy. I’m a do-er, more likely to smother than be smothered. I try to watch myself, but I’m not always successful.

Here’s to each of us looking for what we don’t seem to have. I hope we find it. And soon.
….
my friend who wanted to be smothered was longing for closeness. The woman who was afraid of being smothered feared a closeness that is so very close to my friend’s desire. To be held and cherished, to feel it all around you. Those things make her nervous, where they just make me envious.”

(monte):somethings written by Be had been on my mind and in my heart’s eye,
among them:

“when i fell on my knees
i discovered legs
saw them rising, smoothly curving on their way up, far beyond my sight
never knew legs could fill the sky like that

when my eyes overflowed with tears
i finally knew about thirst
how the water, filling those oceans, slowly poured down my throat
amazing my tounge on its way

when my body fell stiff
i was hoping for you
your arms, strong n steady as im sure they would be, catching me
as i fall
from the sky
to the ocean
hoping
for you”

(monte):
i wish i had the strength to catch the whole world,
i’m still falling down myself
need what you don’t have?

people need each other!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

this fit here, from Sassy also, last month:

 

“Love is…

 

“Love is…Sometimes I’m in love with the whole world. My heart fills up with love, overflows with it. And I want to rain it down on everyone I see. If we all just gave away the love the world would somehow be even more beautiful than it is. I want to put my arms around my friends and my family and the nice woman who held the door for me and let them feel the living energy moving through me. I want my old pain healed and it seems possible right now, if I can just keep loving this way.”(monte): i feel what they are saying, very much soi want to smother the world with love (deemed GOOD by my nerve systems)
precisely because
the world smothers me with need (deemed OVERLOAD by my systems)
on OVERRIDE (’cause love don’t quit)

still playin on the teeter-totter?
know there is a reason (and that it’s all ok by me)

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.